Wednesday, 15 April 2009

「兩周一聚」: 怕 (七情六慾系列之 七)

我自去年二月便開始嘗試寫七情六慾中十四個題目了,不容易寫,覺得自己寫得不好,至今只寫了六個,一直把它擱下來,剛巧還未寫「怕」。 hevangel 這個題目,無心挿柳給我打了氣...

「怕」,恐、驚、懼,是心中不安之感,七情的一種。面對未知未了解的新事物、新對手、新危機,在缺乏自信的情況下,束手無策,難免會有驚怕之心,不過有說「初生之犢不畏虎」,年輕閱歷未深的小伙子無所畏懼,除了有銳氣有勇氣,在未能完全察覺危險的環境下,哪有所懼怕? 年長了,面對困境的機會多了,顧慮也多了,害怕的事情又會相繼而多,這一種怕,又變成理性的怕。

很多時候,我們會把「怕」與「憂」相連,甚至混作一談,面臨恐懼,有不安之情,是會產生憂慮的,但是只要我們想一下,其實「怕」與「憂」之間並不含糊,因怕而憂,我憂故我怕,是因又是果,在此不再多寫了,再說便會給拉遠。

其實,誰沒有害怕的時候?周末有個小朋友高高興興地要在我家留宿一晚,上床晚休的時候才眼淚兩行,叫怕,要媽媽,我故作鎮靜不斷安撫他,其實心裡不知多怕,怕要我午夜再穿起外衣,怕要勞師動眾把他送回家去。

好了,「怕」的程度不同,因由不同,解決辦法也不同,但我們得學會面對,嗚呼,名與利的得與失並不是人類痛苦的泉源,七情六慾才是令人迷罔的禍首。有人避之則吉,有人故意沉迷。遊樂場不是有不少驚嚇的機動遊戲嗎? 恐怖片不是長有擁躉嗎?世界上不是有冒險家、高險運動員如賽車手、還有買空賣空的股票玩家嗎? 也許,跟追求戀愛的感覺差不多,不少人就是要追求驚怕的情感。

話回來,我在網上國語辭典修訂本查過「怕」字,一大堆有關的諺語便走了出來,其中不少更是頗有中國人生哲學意味的呢 : 不怕一萬,就怕萬一; 不怕不識貨,就怕貨比貨; 白天不做虧心事,半夜不怕鬼敲門; 怕見的是怪,難躲的是債; 天下無難事,只怕有心人; 留得青山在,不怕沒柴燒; 好漢不怕出身低; 真金不怕火; 閻王也怕拚命鬼; 英雄只怕病來磨; 人怕出名豬怕肥; 文官不愛錢,武官不怕死; 人正不怕影子斜...

我怕大家給我悶慌了,就此停筆 :)

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13 comments:

微豆 Haricot said...

Have no fear !! Will come back :)

洛言 said...

》我怕大家給我悶慌了

七情六慾很多時是莫名的、不可理喻的,更不可用理控制的。

你真以為有人會悶慌嗎?也就是怕的莫名之處,是「用理」講不清的。

這篇寫得很好。(扮了鬼臉啦,哈哈!)

周游 said...

怕和憂的確如孿生兒,怕花無百日好,在這經濟鈍境中便等於憂柴憂米的隱憂。

同意洛言,你寫得很用心,我要把你的七情六慾讀完。

gwenzilla said...

寫得很好,真有拍案叫絕的讀後感。

michelle said...

Haricot: Thanks for your support... waiting for you...

洛言 : 見你讀到最後一句,應該都唔會太悶到你吧 :P

周游 : 謝謝你的贊賞 !

gwenzilla: 嘩,比你贊到飄上天啦...

exile from hk said...

Last paragraph on 諺語
is very interesting. It says a lot about how the Chinese think and our culture.

michelle said...

exile from hk: happy that you find them interesting :) are you going to join us and write something some time later ? if you want, just send us an email and we may publish it in the '兩周一聚' blog :)

exile from hk said...

Thanks for inviting me, Michelle. If I can think of anything that's worth sharing, I will try.

微豆 Haricot said...

Michelle:

I would submit that the cause-effect part of the process is actually important, because if people can identify the cause(s) of their fear and find ways to mitigate the real or perceived risk(s), then they might be able to lower the level of anxiety, and possibly fear itself.

One possible way of overcoming fear is to acquire the skills of risk assessment and risk management and to look at situations with a more rational mind. However, I know it is easier said than done.

chilli mom said...

我都係好鍾意最尾果段,好有心。

微豆 Haricot said...
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微豆 Haricot said...

Hey !! I just read some of the other articles of your 七情六慾 series which started in Feb 2009. I too have been drafting an article on the same subject matter, except that it is in English. Could I link it to yours when I am done?

michelle said...

exile from hk: you are welcome !

Haricot: Yes identifying the causes is an efficient way to help ourselves facing/overcoming fear... By the way same like facing many other problems...

re article of 七情六慾, yes of course with pleasure ! please do let me know when you have finished :)

chilli mom: 哈 那段是抄來的,最容易 :)

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